BREAKING NEWS: "Dance Party Fridays" & "Self-Love Saturdays" will be returning this coming week! I was told last night by a very amazing friend that I needed to end my little hiatus and get back to shaking my groove thang & my blogging format, and I agreed. I'm ready to get back on the horse and continue the ride. Juggling blogging, school, LIFE, motherhood & mental health shenanigans won't be easy, but hey, that's why I can blog about it all here, right? Right. So yes. Get ready, cause I've got some pretty cool songs lined up to dance to! Until then, here's a quote to inspire you & me to keep digging deep, shedding our tangles, owning our stories & SPEAKING OUT:
"I have learned now that while those who speak about one's miseries usually hurt, those who keep silence hurt more." - C.S. Lewis
And a video to help me keep my head up & sing as I continue to get over my break up. Co-parenting with an ex who you still haven't gotten over is no easy feat, people. But I'm doing it. I've been taking the pain of it in stride this month...or rather in dancing :) They say "time heals all wounds," so here's my theme song as October approaches.....
"Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one’s definition of your life; define yourself" - Harvey Fierstein. Move from being a victim to a victor. Own your story and share it. Be authentic, live wholehearted. Do not allow your circumstances or pain from the past or present define you. Don't let a mood disorder define who you are. Define yourself in truth, in God's truth...come to know who He says you are and let that be the foundation upon which you build your identity, let it become the lens through which you see yourself. Your beautiful, worthy, and loved self.
I challenge you to read these words and whatever else comes to your heart in front of a mirror, looking yourself directly in the eye as you say each word. I did. Difficult but empowering to say the least....if you do it, feel free to share how you felt and the impact, if any this had on you.
“I don't know if I continue, even today, always liking myself. But what I learned to do many years ago was to forgive myself. It is very important for every human being to forgive herself or himself because if you live, you will make mistakes- it is inevitable. But once you do and you see the mistake, then you forgive yourself and say, 'well, if I'd known better I'd have done better,' that's all. So you say to people who you think you may have injured, 'I'm sorry,' and then you say to yourself, 'I'm sorry.' If we all hold on to the mistake, we can't see our own glory in the mirror because we have the mistake between our faces and the mirror; we can't see what we're capable of being. You can ask forgiveness of others, but in the end the real forgiveness is in one's own self. I think that young men and women are so caught by the way they see themselves. Now mind you. When a larger society sees them as unattractive, as threats, as too black or too white or too poor or too fat or too thin or too sexual or too asexual, that's rough. But you can overcome that. The real difficulty is to overcome how you think about yourself. If we don't have that we never grow, we never learn, and sure as hell we should never teach.”-Maya Angelou
"The Toughest Losses Make The Strongest Teams. Pressure Makes Us." -Nike Women